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How To Start Kaiden Romance

Shane Williams

This page contains all the information you need on how to have a romance with Kaidan Alenko.

Regaining Trust

Kaidan is a romance option only available to Female Shepard if you chose to keep him alive in Mass Effect 1. Once you reunite during the mission, Priority: Mars, Kaiden will have questions about you and Cerberus. Here you’ll want to say “It was a temporary alliance” followed by “You know me better than that” the first time he brings this up, then when he brings it up again say “How can you say that?” along with “I never left”.

Upon completing a mission, you’ll receive a message at your Private Terminal asking you to visit him. Here you’ll face a choice. If you didn’t romance anybody in Mass Effect 2 and remained loyal to him, then you’ll be able to reignite your relationship. If you did romance someone else in Mass Effect 2, then the opportunity to stay with Kaiden is available here.

Meet with Kaidan

Complete another mission and then you’ll want to visit Kaidan at the Citadel to be informed that he has taken up the Spectre Job. During the mission, Priority: Citadel, you’ll find Kaidan escorting the Citadel Council. Here you’ll need Kaidan to trust you enough to side with you in order he survives this mission. This all depends on your actions throughout both Mass Effect 1 and 2.

If you have enough Reputation, then you can use a Charm or Intimidate interrupt and Kaidan will trust you. However, if you don’t, then your other two options involve him dying. After the mission has come to a close and Kaidan has survived, meet with him at the Normandy Dock


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Guide Information

  • Publisher
    Electronic Arts
  • Platforms
    PC, PS3, Wii U, XB 360
  • Genre
    Action RPG, Third-person shooter
  • Guide Release
    14 May 2021
  • Last Updated
    17 September 2021
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  • Guide Author
    Andrew Mills, Claire Farnworth

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For years, a lone soldier has told tales of the Reapers, of their return, of these sentient machines reaching out across the vastness of space, to harvest all sentient life. But the warnings were all for nothing. Until now. The Reapers have at last come to Earth and these warnings can no longer be ignored. You are Commander Shepard, the first human spectre and elite soldier of the Alliance, tasked with uniting the galaxy in the fight to stop the Reapers destroying everything you hold dear. In your hands lies the fate of the entire Milky Way but luckily, this time, you are no longer alone.

  • All side missions completed containing the included DLC.
  • Find every single weapon mod tucked away in the game.
  • In-depth look at the major choices and consequences of each.
  • Full details on all possible Romances.
  • Class builds to get the most out of your chosen class.
  • All Biotic Combos and Tech Bursts explained.
  • Details on every Power.
  • Builds for all squad mates.
  • Trophy/Achievement guide.

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